The Art of Decluttering
As we journey through life, we encounter different people who become part of our story. Some of these individuals will be lifelong friends, while others will only stay for a season. As we grow and mature, we begin to realize that some of these relationships are no longer serving us in a positive way, and we may need to cut ties with those individuals.
I’m writing this today because I woke up feeling like I needed to do some decluttering. No, it’s not closet decluttering or fridge decluttering; it’s friends. Although it may come across as harsh, I believe that it’s necessary for me to take this step to maintain my mental well-being and stay in charge of my thoughts and emotions.
To begin with, I’m an introvert. I enjoy solitude, and it brings me joy to do things I love doing alone, but I don’t mind some companies as long as they don’t exhaust me emotionally. However, as I grow older, I begin to notice the shits that people around me do or say that drain every last bit of my energy. Sometimes when I go out with certain people, I come home mentally exhausted after spending hours pretending to be connected with them. Just like an old saying goes, the key to a healthy life is having a healthy mind. So when my psyche is fucked, it gets physical too.
As much as we may want to hold onto friendships, it’s important to acknowledge that sometimes we just outgrow them. It’s not necessarily a reflection of the other person’s character or worthiness as a friend, but rather an acknowledgment that we are all constantly evolving and changing.
It’s important to prioritize our own well-being when it comes to friendships. We may feel a sense of guilt or obligation to maintain relationships, even if they are no longer positive or fulfilling for us. However, holding onto these relationships can ultimately do more harm than good, leading to feelings of resentment, frustration, and exhaustion.
At times, it can be difficult to discern which friendships are worth keeping and which ones we should let go of. We may be afraid of hurting someone’s feelings or worry about being alone without that person in our lives. However, it’s important to remember that we have the power to choose who we surround ourselves with and the type of energy we allow into our lives. It can be scary to step outside of our comfort zones and forge new connections, but it can also be incredibly rewarding and fulfilling.
In the end, letting go of friendships that no longer serve us is not an act of selfishness but rather an act of self-love and respect. We owe it to ourselves to create a life that is filled with joy, positivity, and growth, and sometimes that means letting go of relationships that no longer align with that vision. By doing so, we open ourselves up to new opportunities and experiences, and we create space for the universe to bring us the people and connections that will support us on our journey. So let us have the courage to declutter our lives, to let go of what no longer serves us, and to trust that we are creating space for abundance and fulfillment to enter our lives.
